Loss - Suggestions for the birth and bonding

A loss of a baby is so difficult regardless of the gestation or age.  Here are some suggestions if you or someone you know has found out the baby has passed away.

• Locate a photographer via www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org  -  They provide free services to families.
• In addition to the NILMDTS photographer, have a family member or friend take many pictures of the baby including the little baby features such as feet, hands, ears.  Have them take pictures of the family with the baby, friends with the baby and any other visitors.  Take pictures of the baby with something special like a blanket, ring, necklace, stuffed animal, really any object the family will take home with them.
• Do clay prints of the hands and feet
• Do ink prints of the hands and feet
• Clip a little bit of hair
• Bathe the baby (if the skin is not too fragile.  With some babies the skin has already started to peel when born and bathing may not be ideal.)
• Ask the nurse to provide information on local funeral homes and if they are aware of any that provide free or discounted services.  Also ask if there is anything the hospital does (ex: free cremation).
• Most importantly, spend as much time with the baby.  You should never feel rushed to say goodbye.  Spend hours with your baby.  As hard as it is, in your heart you will know when it is time to say goodbye.